How to be a better spouse..

We had Pastor Aaron Tham and his lovely wife, Constance come to speak on this topic last week and this Sunday to both our husbands and wives.

It was in Ps Mal's heart that our couples be ministered to and how right he is! The attendance was not terribly encouraging but most of the married ones turned up, so I guess I shouldn't complain. The unmarried ones either think they are alright or they don't think it would help them... Their loss..

A couple of points I think were pretty good include the idea that the ladies must learn to stop COMPARING their spouses to other seemingly more "successful" men out there. It's like when they married their darlings they were perfectly content that they got the best one in the block but suddenly a friend whips up another specimen and she's suddenly all flustered and feel that their darling ought to "show them" or they simply need to "do better"!

I think keeping up with the Jones-es is a terrible affliction many of us suffer from...

Another good point that was raised was about wives having affairs instead of the traditional idea that only men cheat on their wives. Husbands especially Christian men, need to realise that their wives are not immune to advances of other men and are tempted in the same manner as they are in the marketplace. They need to help their wives continue to feel secure and loved, treasured and adored just like anyone else..

Women are a strange bunch though. When given the opportunity to ask ANY question about men (Pastor Aaron volunteered to answer anything!) they just kept mum! Maybe too many eyes and ears around? Maybe, the COMPARING affliction is rampant in church too? So sad...

Looks like I got my work cut out for me.... Women's Ministry, anyone?