"Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty;

not on your past misfortunes of which all men have some."
Charles Dickens

Tuesday, October 04, 2005

measure of affection...

How can I tell if someone likes me... or not?

How much does he/she like me? How would I know? How can I tell?

Some hug and kiss as a customary greeting, whilst some simply nod in acknowledgement or just wave from afar... does that mean that, a kiss and hug person, likes me more?

What does it matter? Well, I resent the fact that we dish out culture as a reason for the lack of show of affection... hmmm, I wonder why courting couples are the only exception then...

I am of the view that, the measure of affection should not be based on merely the outward show. Yet, we cannot dispense with some "show" as we ought to convey our appreciation for the person if they are indeed of some significance or importance in our lives. (Defining significance and importance is for another time...)

End of the day, I'd like to know where I stand...

Wonder if thinking aloud is a good idea after all.. Anyways, this is just an observation..

(This was first drafted on Sept 6..)

1 comment:

Jenn said...

Australians have a way of greeting everyone "How are you" or "How's it going?" even sales ppl and cashiers. At first you get this warm feeling of being welcomed... But you'll soon pick up that habit of asking ppl the very same questions without waiting for or expecting a response. I don't want to become like that... I don't want to lose the sincerity in such a simple but meaningful question that invites someone elses to share...